A longer version of this article originally appeared on Alt Muslimah here.
Weddings are joyous, celebratory moments in most individuals’ lives. The joining of two individuals who can bear to sit through never-ending sermons, mountains of paperwork and reels of cheesy videos is surely something commendable. However, it is an indisputable fact that (most) weddings are no walk in the park. Whether you choose a backyard DIY wedding or a luxurious ballroom setting, weddings take a lot of work. As I navigate my way through my own wedding planning, I have made quite a few observations. For starters, regardless of whether your wedding is American, Pakistani, or both- a lot of the work is focused on one person alone: the bride.
Now, of course, everyone acknowledges that weddings are, more or less, about the bride (whether or not that’s legitimate can be argued over separately). However, what seems entirely unfair is the emphasis placed on the bride’s appearance over all else. From the minute a girl is engaged- the stress begins. For many women, much of the stress of the wedding (besides logistics) has to do with her looks.
Editor’s note: Hafsa Ahmad is an Editor at altMuslimah.com. This piece was originally published for the blog Matter of Cause, and edited for altMuslimah.com by the author.